Proper etiquette for dating a widower
You can’t please everyone, and what other people – even your kids – think about you isn’t your business anyway. You don’t tell them how to live or who to love and they don’t have the right to tell you anything either.
Generally, if you have good, supportive relationships with kids, extended family and friends, this will all work out and they will be happy and supportive. Once you hand the keys of your dating life over to your kids, they won’t give them back, and do you really want to be that old man or woman, whose adult children talk to them as though they were small fluffy purse puppies?
Taking their feelings into account is good, but don’t forget that they have their own lives to mind and should leave the minding of yours to you. Try to avoid a revolving door of dates where underage kids are concerned.
I just read your book “Why He Disappeared” and really appreciated the great info.
In your book, you said that if a guy isn’t seeing you more than once a week by the 3 months point, he probably isn’t interested in a serious relationship.
My question is this – does this apply to widowers as well or is it fair to give him a little more time and just get busy with other things so I don’t put pressure on him?
Our relationship began online, and as friends, but when it was clear to us that this could be more, we deliberately took that step, kept moving forward and haven’t looked back. More widowed than will admit to it try to date at some point within the first year.
Some people even begin dating with weeks or a few months.