Dating becomes a relationship
Not the love should be about problems, just that we go from being attracted and wanted each other to caring about each other. I wonder though how you prevent this from being the only main thing you and an SO discuss with eachother?
I sometimes have some issues with people who can only talk about their vulnerabilities and we loose others topics to talk about quite fast.
When my nervous butterflies start becoming "I can't fucking wait to see this girl" butterflies. When I first start dating a girl I'll get these nervous butterflies like "ok man you got this just be you and you'll be fine she'll love it no worries" blah blah blah. When it goes from just two people interested into the broad versions of each other, to two people who would start discussing less pleasant things.
If you have made it past date four and you’re now on date five or six, and the dates have become longer affairs possibly at one another’s homes, then you’re probably seeing them.This is my primary problem with the whole "don't need the other person, want them, focus on yourself." blah blah blah, is it's imprecise advice.When you can be vulnerable with another person, and you need them and they need you, then that's the ultimate fulfillment.Maybe it's a Midwestern thing, but to me, "we're dating" and "we're in a relationship" mean the same thing.When I start to catch myself thinking about her at random times of my day and use any chance I get to bring up her name in a conversation, that's when I know I'm falling for someone and want something more.