Adult phone chat just listen
Young adults need to prove to themselves that they can make it on their own.
“A parent might be thinking, ‘I care about them’ while the child is hearing, ‘They don’t trust me; they don’t approve of me; they don’t think I can do this,’” she explains. Gen Y-ers (people now in their 20s and 30s) often prefer texting and “chat” applications to talking on the phone.
Boorn suggests collecting interesting news stories you run across or jokes you hear so you can quickly change the subject if you feel tension on the other end of the line. “I hear people in their 20s ask, ‘Do my parents ever do anything except worry about me? She advises we tell our grown kids about what been doing. Let’s say you’re upset that your grown kids don’t call you twice a week. “Talk about what you want, be ready to scale back your desires, and you will probably avoid a multitude of problems that can be adversely affecting your conversation comfort level,” says Boorn.
Talk about the movie you saw recently; repeat the anecdote about the crazy supermarket cashier who refused to ring up items she thought were “unhealthy.” Be interesting and your child will be interested back. The experts also reminded me that my “tongue-tied” dilemma is probably only a temporary phase.
Still, sometimes after a long stretch when we haven’t spent much time together, I don’t know what to say when I call to say hi.
If the situation delves into an area where you think you’ll find disagreement from the other person, finish it with, “I’m not asking you to agree with me, but can you understand where I’m coming from? We’ve talked about a few things you can say, but the most essential ninja strategy is to . Understand what a person is saying and what they appear to be feeling underneath the words.
), but I think I have good relationships with my adult children.
They live close enough that I see them every few weeks.
The result of this dissonance: uncomfortable moments when every discussion topic you float elicits the resounding thud of silence. Luckily, as long as parents and their grown children don’t have serious relationship issues, there are quite a few ways to turn on the conversation tap. That means the best way to catch up with your kids is to go where they are: electronic messages.
If Hillary Clinton, whose texting became Internet famous, learned to type on her phone, so can you.