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When PIRs do a personal inventory, they list the things--their thoughts, feelings, character traits, and behaviors--that stand in the way of recovery and those personal strengths that can help in recovery.
A business that tries to sell useless or damaged things goes broke; a PIR who holds on to useless and unhealthy thoughts, feelings, and behaviors also goes "broke" and risks relapse.
Some PIRs come from unhappy families in which emotional or physical abuse and addiction were common.
Because of this, some PIRs may have developed trust, intimacy, or abandonment issues.
In the process, they learn mutual respect for others and how to have equality in a relationship rather than power over someone else.
When I mentioned to my friend Mark that I was writing this chapter, he said, "Yikes! " He then proceeded to tell me about his own struggles and achievements as he worked on each of these "relationship" Steps.
Step Four asks people to make "a searching and fearless moral inventory" of themselves.
Many PIRs [people in recovery] also need help establishing healthy relationships.The Big Book, page 64, says that "resentment is the 'number one' offender," and that it destroys more addicts than anything else does.It is obviously very important, therefore, for PIRs to identify and release their resentments in a constructive way.This article was co-authored by Paul Chernyak, LPC.Paul Chernyak is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Chicago.